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11/14/2023

Trauma Responses Explained

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Trauma Responses Explained

I've always believed that the better we know ourselves, the better we can understand others - even animals. The Knowledge of Self and the experience to act on it is what horses perceive as Leadership.

Enhancing your Leadership Skills isn't easy if you don't know what you're looking for, so here's a list of several and common Trauma Responses (that can be categorized in Fight/Flight/Freeze/Fawn) including ones I experience and how you can work with them;


1. Perfectionism
Perfectionism is a coping mechanism if you've experienced a lack of being in control during your childhood. As adults we try to take back control by anxiously wanting everything we do to be perfect and we feel inadequate when we inevitably fail. It doesn't mean we aren't able, it means we're human and already perfect.


2. Imposter Syndrome
If you're a perfectionist then chances are that you're experiencing Imposter Syndrome as well. We tend to feel like a fraud and not worthy of love, attention, praise or money. The line between deserving succes and being successful gets blurry and we tip toe in the in-between. We shove our true self to the background and only let our best parts be seen to shine. There's a great deal of shame when you experience Imposter Syndrome, which will bleed into every aspect of your life if you don't find out what parts you are suppressing/hiding. Allowing all of you to live, breathe and shine is the only way to embrace yourself and let shame go.



3. People Pleasing
A typical Fawn response and coping mechanism for many of us. People-pleasing can become a way to avoid conflict, pain or even abuse and therefore creates a sense of safety. It's not just about being able to say 'No', it's also about choosing what you wear, eat or say when you go out into the world.



4. Hyper-Independence
Not asking for help can be a trauma response. If all you've ever heard when you were growing up is 'you need to learn to do it yourself' or 'I'm too busy' etc, it's very common to feel like you're alone and the only one who can fix the wrongs and hardships.

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Here's a secret: only strong people ask for help.

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Zoë van Mourik | Equine Trauma & Behavior Specialist
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